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Average Time of Intercourse | How long does your sex last?

If you don’t want to put it in the comments, here’s what the stats say. The average time of intercourse is 5-7 minutes, but 50% of guys last less than 2 minutes.

And when you give guys some anonymity, they admit it. The most popular response to a reddit poll on “how long does sex normally last” was 1-2 minutes.

That’s a major problem.

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The reported ideal length of sex is between 10 and 25 minutes, and 80% of guys can’t pull that off.

Both men and women want their sex to last longer, but guys lack the control to make it happen.

Now I’ll start by covering why you should work on lasting longer in bed.

• Then we’ll move on to step one: addressing the psychological factors behind lasting longer.
• Step two is the exercises you can do to start lasting longer. No gym necessary, and they’re a lot of fun.
• Finally, step three is what to do during sex (use penis desensitizers ) to make sure you last as long as possible.

Let’s get this party started…

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Step 1: Improving Your Sex Psychology

If you go into sex thinking that you won’t last very long, you won’t. Sliding in with any sort of insecurities about your sexual abilities will make you cum much, much faster than you want to.

And if you think about it biologically, it makes sense. The insecurity makes you stressed. Your body can tell that you’re stressed. The stress suggests that this isn’t a very safe environment for you to be naked with your eyes closed and not particularly ready to defend against one of these.

The best way to do that? Talk to your partner about it.

If you bring up your concerns about how long you’re lasting and that you want to work on it with them, they’re not going to think less of you. Rather, they’ll think higher of you for wanting to improve this part of your relationship, and want to work on it with you.

It’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, and you’ll find that just being open about it will solve half the problem on its own.

Better, when you open up in this way and start to work on it, there are positive spillovers to other areas of life. It doesn’t just improve your communication and trust with your partner, it improves your confidence in yourself.

No partner? No worries. You can easily do the exercises without one.

Step 2: Daily Exercises for Lasting Longer

Good news, there are only two things you need to do regularly to significantly increase your sexual longevity.

It’s just kegel exercises and masturbation practice, and it’s an even 50% kegels and 50% practice so take the time for both.

Exercise 1: Kegels and Reverse Kegels (< 10 mins / day)

If you do nothing else in this article, do this.

The best way to improve your ejaculatory control is the strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. Makes sense, right?

If you’ve never heard of kegels before, I wrote more in-depth articles on kegel exercises for men, and reverse kegels, to help you out. But you can get by with the abbreviated version below if you’re familiar with it.

Here’s what I want you to do:

1. Get naked (I told you this would be fun).
2. Put a finger or two on the skin between your legs behind your balls, but before your anus.
3. Now imagine you’re trying to stop yourself from peeing. Flex that muscle. (This is also the muscle you flex to make your penis “dance” when it’s hard. Don’t give me that look, I know you’ve done it).
4. You should feel some movement where you put your fingers, and you might feel movement in your penis and balls.
5. Don’t flex your ass like you’re trying to show off your glutes, don’t flex your legs, and don’t flex your abs. Focus just on flexing that muscle.
6. If you’re really having trouble finding it, then drink a bunch of water, go pee, and try to stop yourself. There it is.

Exercise 2: Masturbation & Edging (10-30 mins / day)

If you want to last longer, you have to start masturbating differently.

Many guys who have trouble lasting a long time have gotten themselves into bad habits from how they masturbate.

If you typically open the spank bank, go full jackhammer on your dick and finish up in a minute or two then yeah, you’re not going to have very much staying power with the real deal.

Here’s your new rule for masturbating: nothing less than 10 minutes. I don’t care if you have to spend 8 of those minutes just staring at it, you can’t let yourself cum in less than 10 minutes. Once that’s comfortable, up it to 15, then 20.

Now, here’s what you should be doing during those 10 minutes.

When a guy isn’t lasting very long in bed, it’s because his “pleasure graph” is looking something like this:

You’ll never look at the “boom” emoji the same

A quick escalation straight to cumming. To last longer, you’re going to train yourself to have your “pleasure graph” look more like this:

This is done through “edging,” which you’ll do during sex later but also need to incorporate into your masturbation.

Here’s how it works:

1. Start masturbating, and get yourself up to a 7 out of 10 on the arousal scale. (You’ll just have to subjectively decide what this is for you, it’ll be easier to identify with practice).
2. Stop, and let yourself simmer down to a 5.
3. Now work up to an 8, and then stop again and let yourself slide down to a 6
4. Up to 9, down to 7
5. Up to 9.5, down to 7 again. A 9.5 is just before the point of no return when you know there’s nothing you can do.
6. Repeat the 9.5 to 7 cycle over and over again until you get past 10 minutes. Then you can let yourself go, and you’ll notice this also makes your orgasms MUCH stronger.

As you’re getting more aroused, remember the STAB technique {(It stands for Squeeze, Think, Avoid, and Breathe. You’ll get the best results by combining the tactics, but you should also experiment to see which one works best for you.) (yeah that’s right, I invented a new sex acronym)} to slow yourself down:

• Squeeze: Squeeze your PC muscles HARD like you’re doing an intense kegel. Hold them for at least 10 seconds, but the longer you can hold the more you’ll come down. (You might also have success doing a couple shorter 5-second holds, or a bunch of quick 1-second holds)
• Think: Think about something else
• Avoid: Change your stroke (avoid the head) instead of stopping entirely
• Breathe: Take deep, diaphragmatic (with your stomach) breaths

Ideally, you should combine all of them, but start with one and then add others in until it becomes second nature.

Set aside 30 minutes a night for this kind of practice. The more the better.

If you have a partner you’d rather do this with, tell her what you’re working on, and ask her to help you either with manual / mouth stimulation or by having slow sex with a lot of stopping and starting.

It will be very tempting to just let yourself go when you’re hitting those 9.5 peaks, but trust me, exercising like this will be worth it.

Plus it’s a lot of fun.

Step 3: Techniques for Lasting Longer During Sex

If you’ve been doing your training, then you’re already going to last much longer in bed.

But we can layer more on top of it. These next four strategies will significantly improve your staying power, just by taking the same principles we’ve been using for masturbation to the bedroom

 Strategic Foreplay Ordering

Foreplay frequently goes in this order, because women typically expect men to initiate the next stage of sex:

Kissing / touching -> Cunnilingus -> Fellatio -> Sex

There’s an obvious problem though: you’re going straight from intense oral stimulation to sex.

That’s no bueno. You want to be going into sex at a 4 or 5, not at an 8.

Here’s what you do. You’re already talking to your partner about lasting longer (unless you skipped down here, shame on you), so tell her that it’d be better if you got her off once manually (to get her warmed up more), then she went down on you, then you went down on her after.

Kissing / touching -> Get her off once manually -> Fellatio -> Cunnilingus -> Sex

When you’re receiving oral, after you get to 9.5 a couple times (same edging technique as before, just this time you yell “stop” at the peaks), switch it up so you can cool down while you go down on her and get her off a few times.

Also, tell her to push against your PC muscle (using two or three fingers or a fist works well) while she’s going down on you. It makes you last longer and feels great, but it’s hard to do during actual sex.

Then, when you’ve peaked enough times, getting a cooldown period with minimal stimulation while going down on her will increase how long you last significantly.

Alternatively, depending on how long your refractory periods are, you could get off when she’s going down on you then recover for round two (which lasts longer) while going down on her. Up to you.

Using Positions for Edging

Getting your partner to edge you during foreplay is easy, but during sex it’s a little different. You don’t want to keep stopping and starting thrusting since that’s going to be frustrating for her, and it’ll make you feel self-conscious and start worrying about cumming too soon.

Instead, you can edge yourself just by switching up positions.

Some positions will move you up arousal stages faster. Others, less so. It’s a combination of:

1. Friction (more = faster)
2. Direction of motion (thrusting = faster, back and forth = slower)
3. Control (you moving = faster, her moving = slower)
4. Your position (standing = slowest, supporting with your arms (e.g. missionary) = fastest)

A position with her legs more closed (more friction) plus you doing the thrusting while lying down (e.g. missionary) will be high stimulation and get you off faster.

But a position with her legs spread and you standing or kneeling will be much lower stimulation. Same story if she’s on top of you moving back and forth instead of up and down.

(If you’re not sure what I mean by “back and forth” (vs “thrusting”) well… this is the only way to explain it (NSFW).)

You need to find your “low stim” and “high stim” positions. Get in the high stim positions when you’re at a 5 or 6, then switch to low stim positions when you’re at an 8 or 9 to bring it back down.

Most importantly, while you’re switching, take a few seconds to squeeze your PC muscles!

Breathing Slowly from Your Diaphragm

The way you breathe affects how quickly you cum.

You’ve heard about how you can trick yourself into being happier by making yourself smile, right? Well, you can also make yourself more or less aroused by changing your breathing.

If you want to bring yourself down, slow your breathing and make sure they’re deep belly breaths with your diaphragm. Taking quick breaths in your shoulders and chest is what you do when you’re about to cum, so if you’re doing that, your body thinks you’re close.

Breathe like you’re fine and you’ll become fine.

Clamp When You Get Too Close

Those first three tips will help you stay in the 5-9 range. But what happens when you get to 9.9 and you don’t think there’s any way to stop yourself from cumming?

This is what training those PC muscles has led to.

Assuming you’ve gotten them strong enough, all you need to do to bring yourself back from that “point of no return” is stop thrusting and clamp down HARD like a long kegel hold (or a combination of shorter ones if you found that worked better for you).

The longer you squeeze for, the more you’ll come down. With practice, you can take yourself from a 9.9 to a 6 or 7 in a few seconds, and add another ~5 minutes to your sex.

Here’s the catch, though. It works better the closer you are to cumming when you do it, so you’re going to have some misfires. But with practice, you’ll start noticing when is the right time to squeeze, and you’ll get better and better at pulling yourself back from the edge.

Go Forth…

That’s it. One psychological change, two exercises to keep you in good sexual shape, three techniques to manage how quickly you heat up, and the last second squeeze to bring you back. That’s all you need.

It’s just a matter of execution. Do the exercises, be open with your partner about what you’re working on, and you’ll see results in less than a month.

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